31/10/24
Ohhh Bonnie Blue. The name that has been gracing everyone’s social media this week. But in case you haven’t heard…
Bonnie Blue is an OnlyFans creator who has recently garnered a lot of attention for her rather outlandish statements that she has been making, most notably after being on the very popular Saving Grace (hosted by GK Barry) podcast.
The problem I, and many others, have with Bonnie Blue is not her line of work - you do you boo. The issue I have with her are the backwards and degrading opinions she seems to have.
Honestly, watching the Saving Grace podcast I just wanted to shout a big old FUCK OFF at her.
As someone who wrote her master’s dissertation on the erasure of femininity in classical music, I really am all for women expressing themselves and doing whatever they want with their bodies.
And the same can be said for OnlyFans creators. They are taking control back and doing what empowers them. It is a perfectly valid way to make money and has provided people with financial stability – power to them. But Bonnie Blue seems to have missed the point entirely.
On the podcast The Reality Check, Bonnie Blue said ‘They [women] are the ones that want their bills paid for. They expect their guy to go and earn more money than them. Then they also want their guy to come home, clean the house, look after the kids. So, it’s like, you can’t expect someone to do all of that, and then you’re not even going to do the bare minimum, which is go down on them’. EXCUSE ME?! What kind of thinking is this?! Women are not vessels for male pleasure. Yet in saying this she is glorifying cheating as well as the outdated societal belief that women are the property of men and were put on this planet for that purpose only - that they do not have the capacity for anything else. And, somehow, what feels worse is that these podcast hosts are not really criticising or arguing with her.
‘Women are not vessels for male pleasure’.
She has also been criticised for sleeping with and filming her having sex with, and I quote, ‘barely legal boys’ and that she ‘loves taking virginities’. From her conversation with GK Barry, it genuinely felt to me like she thought she was performing some kind of service and helping to de-stigmatise sex being a taboo subject. Don’t get me wrong, she does talk about sex very openly which I do think is great. But saying that she loves sleeping with ‘barely legal boys’ is too far for me. Flip the switch and imagine a man was saying this. Enough said.
I urge everyone to educate themselves about sex work and empowerment in the right way. A great place to start is PORN by Polly Barton. For someone who knew very little about the nuances of porn and empowerment, with much more still to learn, this was a great place to start for me. With so much more to be said on this, I shall leave with what I heard someone say today: ‘sex work cannot be empowering until everyone is empowered’.